As a bride-to-be, you will have a lot of decisions. This includes who to bring with you to your bridal fittings.
Do you go alone?
Do you bring your bride-of-honour?
Or do you bring your mum?
While it may seem like a no-brainer to bring your mum along to your fittings, there are some pros and cons to consider before making your decision. On the one hand, your mum may be a great source of support and advice during the wedding planning process. On the other hand, it’s important to consider that your bridal fitting is a time for you to focus on what you want and what makes you feel confident and beautiful.
4 Reasons Why Mum Should Come With You
- Valuable insights and advice: She may have valuable insights on what styles and shapes flatter your figure, and she may be able to offer guidance on what fabrics and colours look best on you. She may also have experience with wedding planning and be able to offer practical advice on what to look for in a wedding dress. Above all else, she will probably be (a little bit too) honest.
- Emotional support: Planning a wedding can be stressful and it’s nice to have someone you trust by your side for support and encouragement. If you think your mum will be a supportive and positive presence at your fittings then having her there can be a great way to bond and share this special moment together.
- Logistics: If your mum is coming to your fittings, she can help with practical tasks such as driving you to the store, carrying dresses, and taking notes. This can be especially helpful if you’re planning a destination wedding and don’t have a lot of local support.
- You want to include your mum in the process: If you have a close relationship with your mum and you want to include her in every aspect of your wedding planning, then bringing her to your fittings can be a meaningful way to do so. Even if you ultimately choose a dress that your mum doesn’t love, the fact that you included her in the process can be a special memory that you both cherish.
4 Reasons Why You Should Not Bring Your Mother
- You want to focus on your own preferences: Your bridal fitting is a time for you to try on dresses and figure out what you like and what you don’t like. If you bring your mum along, you may feel pressure to please her or conform to her ideas of what a “perfect” wedding dress should look like, rather than finding a dress that truly reflects your own style and vision.
- You have different tastes: It’s possible that you and your mum have different ideas about what constitutes a “beautiful” wedding dress. If you know that your mum tends to favour more traditional or conservative styles, and you’re drawn to more modern or unconventional looks, you may want to avoid bringing her to your fittings to avoid any potential conflicts.
- You want to keep the process private: Some brides prefer to keep their wedding dress selection process private, at least until they’ve made their final decision. If you’re the type of person who values your privacy and doesn’t want to share every detail of your wedding planning with others, you may prefer to go to your fittings alone or with a close friend or family member.
- You want to surprise your mum: If you know that your mum will want to be involved in every aspect of your wedding planning, you may want to surprise her with your final dress selection. In this case, it might be best to go to your fittings alone or with a trusted confidant who can help you keep your secret.
5 Tips On How To Manage Your Mum’s Expectations If You Decide To Bring Her To Your Appointment
Communicate your vision beforehand
Before you go to your fitting, have a chat with your mum about your wedding style and your vision for your dress. This can help to set the stage for a more productive and harmonious fitting experience as it will give your mum a better understanding of what you’re looking for.
For example, you could say the following:
“Mum, I’m really looking forward to our bridal fitting next week. I just wanted to let you know that I have a pretty clear vision for my dress, and I’m hoping to find something that is romantic, elegant, and feels true to my personal style. I really value your opinions and insights, but I just want to make it clear that the final decision is mine. I’m excited to try on a variety of dresses and see what feels right for me, and I hope you’ll be there to support me and offer your thoughts as we go along. Can we keep an open mind and just have fun with it?”
It’s important to remember that your bridal fitting is about finding a dress that you love and feel confident in, not about pleasing your mum or anyone else. If you feel like your mum is pushing you in a direction that you’re not comfortable with, it’s okay to assert your boundaries and remind her that the final decision is yours.
For example, when you start feeling overwhelmed during the appointment, try saying the following:
“Mum, I really appreciate your input and your support but I’m starting to feel a little overwhelmed. I want to find a dress that I love and feel confident in, and I’m starting to feel like I’m not being true to my own preferences. Can we take a step back and just focus on what I like and what makes me feel good about myself? I know the final decision is mine, and I just want to make sure that I’m being true to myself .”
Remind your mum that the dress is just one aspect of the wedding
While the wedding dress is an important element of the wedding, it’s not the only thing that matters. Remind your mum that the most important thing is that you feel happy and confident on your big day, and that the dress is just one aspect of that.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or stressed during your fitting, it’s okay to take breaks or step away for a moment to regroup. It’s important to stay calm and focused. If you need a moment to yourself, don’t be afraid to take it.
Bring a neutral third party
If you’re concerned about managing your mum’s expectations, you may want to consider bringing a neutral third party, such as a close friend to your fitting. This can help to provide an objective perspective and alleviate any tension that may arise between you and your mum.
Ultimately, the decision of whether to bring your mum to your bridal fittings is a personal one that depends on your relationship with your mum and your own feelings about the process. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you.
About Emerald Bridal
I hope you found this guide helpful.
Emerald Bridal specialises in off-the-rack (ready-to-wear) wedding dresses that offer a careful balance between style, affordability, and quality. Our focus is on helping brides find their dream dress so that they look and feel comfortable and beautiful on their big day.
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